Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Michael Frost on Missional Church
I really appreciate what Frost has to say in this video. It is both insightful and challenging. My prayer is that we can be more intentional about engaging our community and seeking ways to be Jesus in the soil we've been planted in.
Monday, April 27, 2009
Renewal
I love springtime. Sun. Warmer temperatures. Lower heating bills. There are so many great things about this time of year.
One of my favorite things about spring is the reminder that God is a God of second chances and renewal. All winter long I have looked out the windows of my home only to see brown grass, trees without leaves, and skies that are often gray.
But the last several weeks I have seen glimmers of hope. The grass is starting to green. There are buds on the trees. The sunshine shines more often and blue skies are becoming more commonplace.
The apostle Paul wrote the following…
But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body. So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you.
It is written: "I believed; therefore I have spoken.” With that same spirit of faith we also believe and therefore speak, because we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you in his presence. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God.
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. (2 Corinthians 4:7-18)
Let springtime remind you of the unseen renewal God offers daily.
shine!
Jason
One of my favorite things about spring is the reminder that God is a God of second chances and renewal. All winter long I have looked out the windows of my home only to see brown grass, trees without leaves, and skies that are often gray.
But the last several weeks I have seen glimmers of hope. The grass is starting to green. There are buds on the trees. The sunshine shines more often and blue skies are becoming more commonplace.
The apostle Paul wrote the following…
But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body. So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you.
It is written: "I believed; therefore I have spoken.” With that same spirit of faith we also believe and therefore speak, because we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you in his presence. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God.
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. (2 Corinthians 4:7-18)
Let springtime remind you of the unseen renewal God offers daily.
shine!
Jason
Thursday, April 23, 2009
More than conquerors
This Sunday our students will be studying Romans 8:18-39. Here are a few reflections on this passage...
This is one of the most powerful passages in all of Scripture. We are a part of God’s work to redeem this world. Through the sacrifice of Jesus, the love of God, and the work of the Holy Spirit, God calls us to join his purpose. We allow so many things to distract us from our purpose and design. Nothing can separate us from God except ourselves. While God is always there and he always loves us, we can choose to construct barriers to put distance between us and God.
We must wrestle with the fact that God is not out to punish us or make us do what he wants. Rather, he views us as his children and wants what is best for us. He gave up his Son to prove his love and he gave us his Spirit to improve our relationship with him. Our God doesn’t sit on the mountaintop sending down laws. He lived them out though Jesus and empowers us with the Holy Spirit to do the same. That is why we are more than conquerors.
shine!
Jason
This is one of the most powerful passages in all of Scripture. We are a part of God’s work to redeem this world. Through the sacrifice of Jesus, the love of God, and the work of the Holy Spirit, God calls us to join his purpose. We allow so many things to distract us from our purpose and design. Nothing can separate us from God except ourselves. While God is always there and he always loves us, we can choose to construct barriers to put distance between us and God.
We must wrestle with the fact that God is not out to punish us or make us do what he wants. Rather, he views us as his children and wants what is best for us. He gave up his Son to prove his love and he gave us his Spirit to improve our relationship with him. Our God doesn’t sit on the mountaintop sending down laws. He lived them out though Jesus and empowers us with the Holy Spirit to do the same. That is why we are more than conquerors.
shine!
Jason
Monday, April 20, 2009
The good, the bad, and the ugly
This past Wednesday, I was able to share my story in Connections. I have to tell you that I was more nervous than I have been in years. Very seldom do I get nervous about public speaking, but this past Wednesday I was very anxious as the evening approached.
I have to be honest, I wasn’t sure what kind of reaction I would receive. I knew that there were parts of my past that are very dark and other parts that are pretty humorous. I shared most everything, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Thank you to those of you who came up to me afterwards with words of affirmation. I also want to thank those who sent me an email or a comment on Facebook.
I was reminded of something powerful this week. There is something about sharing your story.
To me, that is one of the most powerful aspects of the Bible. Many people look at the Bible as a list of rules and regulations to please a God who doesn’t really care about what we want. That is so counter to what the Bible really is.
In the Bible, we are introduced to the stories of hundreds of people whose lives, like mine, were full of the good, the bad, and the ugly. And while I shared my life with a few hundred people, billions of people have heard the stories of people like David and Peter. David, the “man after God’s own heart,” also violated half of the Ten Commandments in a matter of months. Peter denied Jesus three times shortly after declaring his allegiance to the Christ.
These two men, and dozens of others in the story of God’s people, accomplished much for the Kingdom of God in spite of their shortcomings.
The apostle Paul wrote, “Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)
When we begin to look at the Bible as a collection of stories of imperfect people striving to grow closer to a perfect and loving God, maybe we can begin to see how God wants to turn our shortcomings into victories rather than telling us how bad we are.
shine!
Jason
I have to be honest, I wasn’t sure what kind of reaction I would receive. I knew that there were parts of my past that are very dark and other parts that are pretty humorous. I shared most everything, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Thank you to those of you who came up to me afterwards with words of affirmation. I also want to thank those who sent me an email or a comment on Facebook.
I was reminded of something powerful this week. There is something about sharing your story.
To me, that is one of the most powerful aspects of the Bible. Many people look at the Bible as a list of rules and regulations to please a God who doesn’t really care about what we want. That is so counter to what the Bible really is.
In the Bible, we are introduced to the stories of hundreds of people whose lives, like mine, were full of the good, the bad, and the ugly. And while I shared my life with a few hundred people, billions of people have heard the stories of people like David and Peter. David, the “man after God’s own heart,” also violated half of the Ten Commandments in a matter of months. Peter denied Jesus three times shortly after declaring his allegiance to the Christ.
These two men, and dozens of others in the story of God’s people, accomplished much for the Kingdom of God in spite of their shortcomings.
The apostle Paul wrote, “Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)
When we begin to look at the Bible as a collection of stories of imperfect people striving to grow closer to a perfect and loving God, maybe we can begin to see how God wants to turn our shortcomings into victories rather than telling us how bad we are.
shine!
Jason
Friday, April 17, 2009
Spirit-led living
This Sunday our students will be studying Romans 8:5-17. I just wanted to share a few brief thoughts on this powerful passage...
This passage gets to the heart of what it means to be a Christian. It’s not about rules or regulations. It’s not the law itself that God is concerned with. God is ultimately concerned about the relationship between him and his children. In Spirit-led living, we see God’s real desire. God wants us to be so intimately connected with him that we can’t help but live according to his passions and desires.
He wants to share his treasures with us. And those treasures exist in this world and the New Heaven and New Earth. When we allow the Holy Spirit to lead us, we will experience true life and real peace. It is not until we allow the Spirit to be our guide that we can really live into God’s dream for us in this world and into eternity.
shine!
Jason
This passage gets to the heart of what it means to be a Christian. It’s not about rules or regulations. It’s not the law itself that God is concerned with. God is ultimately concerned about the relationship between him and his children. In Spirit-led living, we see God’s real desire. God wants us to be so intimately connected with him that we can’t help but live according to his passions and desires.
He wants to share his treasures with us. And those treasures exist in this world and the New Heaven and New Earth. When we allow the Holy Spirit to lead us, we will experience true life and real peace. It is not until we allow the Spirit to be our guide that we can really live into God’s dream for us in this world and into eternity.
shine!
Jason
Thursday, April 16, 2009
10 Years Ago...
Ten years ago today was the day I lost my mother in a car accident. I wrote about this experience last year, so I won't revisit the story.
However, I was reminded today of the lonely and confusing world of dealing with death.
We live in a culture that doesn't always know how to deal with death and dying. We spend billions of dollars as a nation to mask our aging. In many ways we have sterilized the dying process. I often see people who are afraid, embarrassed, or unsure of how to deal outwardly with their grief. Sometimes, it seems like it is culturally unacceptable to grieve.
I am so thankful that during my time at Rochester I have interacted with John & Sara Barton, who served as missionaries to Uganda, and several students from Uganda who have attended Rochester College. Through them, and several indirect experiences with deaths in Uganda, I have learned a lot about how at least one other culture deals with death.
Last night I shared my life story with the Rochester Church. Part of that story included the deaths of my mom and Michelle's mom, who died several months apart in 1999. Any time I share my story of grieving, be it in front of a few hundred people or sitting in my office with one student wrestling with grief, there is power in community, sharing sorrow, and helping carry one another's burdens.
I wonder what kind of difference it would make in our churches if we could become more transparent and honest about the times we are hurting. Not only could it help those dealing with the pain, I believe it would draw our churches closer together and move us closer to the koinonia community that God desires.
shine!
Jason
However, I was reminded today of the lonely and confusing world of dealing with death.
We live in a culture that doesn't always know how to deal with death and dying. We spend billions of dollars as a nation to mask our aging. In many ways we have sterilized the dying process. I often see people who are afraid, embarrassed, or unsure of how to deal outwardly with their grief. Sometimes, it seems like it is culturally unacceptable to grieve.
I am so thankful that during my time at Rochester I have interacted with John & Sara Barton, who served as missionaries to Uganda, and several students from Uganda who have attended Rochester College. Through them, and several indirect experiences with deaths in Uganda, I have learned a lot about how at least one other culture deals with death.
Last night I shared my life story with the Rochester Church. Part of that story included the deaths of my mom and Michelle's mom, who died several months apart in 1999. Any time I share my story of grieving, be it in front of a few hundred people or sitting in my office with one student wrestling with grief, there is power in community, sharing sorrow, and helping carry one another's burdens.
I wonder what kind of difference it would make in our churches if we could become more transparent and honest about the times we are hurting. Not only could it help those dealing with the pain, I believe it would draw our churches closer together and move us closer to the koinonia community that God desires.
shine!
Jason
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Outside the walls
This week while at one of the Christian colleges, something interesting happened. I was sitting in a contemplative chapel where we were lead in prayers through the Stations of the Cross.
There’s something else that happened during our prayer time that I want to share with you. Overlooking the arena where we were having chapel, there is a room that has floor to ceiling windows.
While we were in the arena with dimmed lights and experiencing prayer, there was a group of people enjoying a luncheon in that room. The bright light and moving bodies was a bit of a distraction since it was clearly visible to all who were a part of the chapel.
It made we wonder how many of us are often like the people at the luncheon, who seemed oblivious to the hundreds of students sitting just outside their window.
How often is God at work in plain view around us and we completely miss it? How many of us get so wrapped up in our days that we don’t see what God is doing right under our noses?
I often hear people ask, “Where is God?” The reality is that often God is already at work, even in the messiest of situations.
The problem is two-fold. First of all, like the people at the luncheon, we can be so consumed by what we want to do, that we miss out on what God is doing all around us.
The other problem is that we want God to work in ways we like or are comfortable with. But that’s often not how God works.
Jesus irritated the religious leaders of his day because he interacted with prostitutes, tax collectors, Samaritans, adulterers, lepers, and a host of other people who were considered “unclean” by those who ascribed to the religious status quo.
Jesus is calling us to a radical way of living. A way of life that calls us to abandon our selfish desires, allow God to transform us from the inside out, and engage a world in need of salvation.
Maybe it’s time to look outside the walls and see what God is doing all around us.
shine!
Jason
There’s something else that happened during our prayer time that I want to share with you. Overlooking the arena where we were having chapel, there is a room that has floor to ceiling windows.
While we were in the arena with dimmed lights and experiencing prayer, there was a group of people enjoying a luncheon in that room. The bright light and moving bodies was a bit of a distraction since it was clearly visible to all who were a part of the chapel.
It made we wonder how many of us are often like the people at the luncheon, who seemed oblivious to the hundreds of students sitting just outside their window.
How often is God at work in plain view around us and we completely miss it? How many of us get so wrapped up in our days that we don’t see what God is doing right under our noses?
I often hear people ask, “Where is God?” The reality is that often God is already at work, even in the messiest of situations.
The problem is two-fold. First of all, like the people at the luncheon, we can be so consumed by what we want to do, that we miss out on what God is doing all around us.
The other problem is that we want God to work in ways we like or are comfortable with. But that’s often not how God works.
Jesus irritated the religious leaders of his day because he interacted with prostitutes, tax collectors, Samaritans, adulterers, lepers, and a host of other people who were considered “unclean” by those who ascribed to the religious status quo.
Jesus is calling us to a radical way of living. A way of life that calls us to abandon our selfish desires, allow God to transform us from the inside out, and engage a world in need of salvation.
Maybe it’s time to look outside the walls and see what God is doing all around us.
shine!
Jason
Thursday, April 02, 2009
Don't wrestle alone
Why does it seem like so many Christians try to fight sin on their own? I think for those of us who are American, it’s because we have “Americanized” our Christianity. We have been shaped by the pioneering spirit and individualistic nature of our nation and our culture. We hear phrases like “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” or look at those who made it “on their own” and we want to bring that to our spiritual life.
Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. Yes, there is an aspect of our spiritual life which includes personal responsibility and choices. Yes, ultimately, we must make the decisions and deal with the consequences of our behavior. But God’s dream is not the American dream. God’s dream is echoed again and again throughout Scripture. God’s dream is about relationship.
In Deuteronomy 6, God says that we must love God and love our neighbor. Jesus echoes those very words in Matthew 22. James states that true religion is caring for widows and orphans, keeping yourself pure. God’s dream can only be realized in relationship. Relationship with God and relationship with one another.
This is just as true in our battle with sin. In Romans 7, Paul describes the challenge that even followers of Christ face in their battle with sin. Paul says, “I want to do what is right, but I can’t. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway.” (Romans 7:18-19)
Can you relate to this? I know I can. It’s interesting that I struggle the most with sin when I try so hard to do it on my own.
Do you want to overcome sin? The answer is simple, but not easy. It begins by having a close relationship with God that includes tapping into the power of the Holy Spirit. It is further strengthened by surrounding yourself with Spirit-filled people who can encourage you and help you in your struggle.
Both of these are uncomfortable at times. When I am wrestling with sin is when I am most tempted to back away from God and fellow believers. But if we believe Paul’s words, that is the time it is more important to rely on those relationships.
shine!
Jason
Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. Yes, there is an aspect of our spiritual life which includes personal responsibility and choices. Yes, ultimately, we must make the decisions and deal with the consequences of our behavior. But God’s dream is not the American dream. God’s dream is echoed again and again throughout Scripture. God’s dream is about relationship.
In Deuteronomy 6, God says that we must love God and love our neighbor. Jesus echoes those very words in Matthew 22. James states that true religion is caring for widows and orphans, keeping yourself pure. God’s dream can only be realized in relationship. Relationship with God and relationship with one another.
This is just as true in our battle with sin. In Romans 7, Paul describes the challenge that even followers of Christ face in their battle with sin. Paul says, “I want to do what is right, but I can’t. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway.” (Romans 7:18-19)
Can you relate to this? I know I can. It’s interesting that I struggle the most with sin when I try so hard to do it on my own.
Do you want to overcome sin? The answer is simple, but not easy. It begins by having a close relationship with God that includes tapping into the power of the Holy Spirit. It is further strengthened by surrounding yourself with Spirit-filled people who can encourage you and help you in your struggle.
Both of these are uncomfortable at times. When I am wrestling with sin is when I am most tempted to back away from God and fellow believers. But if we believe Paul’s words, that is the time it is more important to rely on those relationships.
shine!
Jason
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Paralyzed by the past
Why do we so often let the past paralyze us?
Whether I am looking at my own life or the lives of others, so many people are held captive by their past.
I have stood behind the bars of past mistakes. I have felt the imprisonment of regrets. I have experienced the hate, anger, guilt, and shame that result from poor decisions and unpleasant experiences.
My use of the past tense does not mean that I am completely free of those things. If I am completely honest, there are still times that I struggle with my past. I have times when I look back and feel the emotional and spiritual paralysis beginning to seep back into my life.
God never intended for us to look back. I think that is the real lesson in the story of Lot’s wife in Genesis 19. Jesus actually referred to this story when he told his disciples, “Remember what happened to Lot’s wife! If you cling to your life, you will lose it, and if you let your life go, you will save it.” (Luke 17:32-33)
Throughout history, God’s desire has been that we leave our past behind and look ahead to what God has in store. He wants our lives to be more than we can imagine. His dreams are bigger than our dreams. His hopes for us far exceed what we can imagine.
The apostle Paul may have put it best when he wrote, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:12-14)
Don’t look back. Don’t be held captive by past mistakes or situations. Whether it’s choices you have made or things that have happened to you that are beyond your control, God is calling you into a better future.
This journey may not be easy and it’s nearly impossible to make the trip alone. We need each other to help us along the way. God called us into community for a purpose, and part of that purpose is to create a place of safety and encouragement where we can be there for one another.
Don’t look back.
Don’t be held captive.
Look forward to the incredible future God has in store for you.
We usually can’t see what the future holds, but when we trust God and lean on one another, we will move closer to the hope and healing that can only be found in Jesus Christ.
shine!
Jason
Whether I am looking at my own life or the lives of others, so many people are held captive by their past.
I have stood behind the bars of past mistakes. I have felt the imprisonment of regrets. I have experienced the hate, anger, guilt, and shame that result from poor decisions and unpleasant experiences.
My use of the past tense does not mean that I am completely free of those things. If I am completely honest, there are still times that I struggle with my past. I have times when I look back and feel the emotional and spiritual paralysis beginning to seep back into my life.
God never intended for us to look back. I think that is the real lesson in the story of Lot’s wife in Genesis 19. Jesus actually referred to this story when he told his disciples, “Remember what happened to Lot’s wife! If you cling to your life, you will lose it, and if you let your life go, you will save it.” (Luke 17:32-33)
Throughout history, God’s desire has been that we leave our past behind and look ahead to what God has in store. He wants our lives to be more than we can imagine. His dreams are bigger than our dreams. His hopes for us far exceed what we can imagine.
The apostle Paul may have put it best when he wrote, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:12-14)
Don’t look back. Don’t be held captive by past mistakes or situations. Whether it’s choices you have made or things that have happened to you that are beyond your control, God is calling you into a better future.
This journey may not be easy and it’s nearly impossible to make the trip alone. We need each other to help us along the way. God called us into community for a purpose, and part of that purpose is to create a place of safety and encouragement where we can be there for one another.
Don’t look back.
Don’t be held captive.
Look forward to the incredible future God has in store for you.
We usually can’t see what the future holds, but when we trust God and lean on one another, we will move closer to the hope and healing that can only be found in Jesus Christ.
shine!
Jason
Saturday, March 28, 2009
An alternative community
I am wrestling with something I read last night. For my grad class, I am currently reading The Missional Leader by Roxburgh and Romanuk. I came across some words that have challenged me. Maybe challenge isn't even the right word. What I read connected with my heart and mind. It touched on something I have been bothered by. It resonated with a passion that has been burning inside me for some time. It gave words to the feeling I have had for some time. Here is what they wrote:
A little later, they wrote:
I feel that in our efforts to spread the Kingdom we have lost some of the uniqueness of the Kingdom. We are called to be separate from the world. This doesn't mean we hide out and disengage from the world. Rather, it means we engage the world from a different perspective. But it seems that we have focused more on looking like the world and engaging the world on their terms instead.
Just last night I was talking with a teenager about the struggles of being a Christian teen. As I think about our conversation in the context of what I read last night, sometimes I feel like we have missed it. Instead of equipping students (and, just as importantly) their parents to develop spiritual habits and disciplines, we have focused on creating events and ministries that will appeal to today's teenagers.
Don't get me wrong. I love teenagers and spend most everyday thinking about how to reach them with the love of Jesus. But, in the words of one of my favorite college professors at Harding, "What you win them with, you win them to."
It feels like we have turned Christianity more into staying out of hell than living for heaven. For many, the question seems to have become, ""What do I need to do to get to heaven?" instead of "What does it mean to follow Jesus?"
I feel like I am beginning to ramble. There is so much going on right now in my mind as I wrestle with the words I read. God, hear my cry. Give me discernment. Where is it that you are calling God's people today as we face an unknown future? How can we move from being admirers of Jesus to committing our lives to him as his followers?
shine!
Jason
Today, in discussion about the nature of church leadership, there is little theological wrestling with the questions of how to form or socialize a people into an alternative community. On the contrary, there is a growing emphasis on how to help seekers feel they belong in a congregation without any expectations or demands on their lives.
It is a strange twist of thinking to watch this kind of conversation. In the time of Tertullianm someone wanting to belong to the church had to go through a rigorous period of training focused on behavior (how daily life was actually lived). In other words, to belong to the new community of Jesus, a person was mentored in practicing change in habits. Today leaders talk about the need to create a safe, non-threatening, low threshold of belonging in order to draw people into the church. Note the two radically different ways in which the same language is being used. These approaches suggest contrasting sources of understanding. In the latter case and in our contemporary context, the source of this thinking in not a theologically, biblically formed imagination but the latest marking strategies that come from polls and studies about what people are looking for when they want to join a group. This is not to suggest that we not seek to welcome people into our churches. It is to point out the distinct sources of our leadership imagination today.
A little later, they wrote:
The Church entered the long period of Christendom and the focus of leadership shifted from formation of a people as a alternative society of God's future to oversight of orthodoxy, proper administration of the sacraments, and regulation of spiritualized and privatized ethical practices increasingly disconnected from any biblical or theological understanding of the ecclesia as the people of God.
I feel that in our efforts to spread the Kingdom we have lost some of the uniqueness of the Kingdom. We are called to be separate from the world. This doesn't mean we hide out and disengage from the world. Rather, it means we engage the world from a different perspective. But it seems that we have focused more on looking like the world and engaging the world on their terms instead.
Just last night I was talking with a teenager about the struggles of being a Christian teen. As I think about our conversation in the context of what I read last night, sometimes I feel like we have missed it. Instead of equipping students (and, just as importantly) their parents to develop spiritual habits and disciplines, we have focused on creating events and ministries that will appeal to today's teenagers.
Don't get me wrong. I love teenagers and spend most everyday thinking about how to reach them with the love of Jesus. But, in the words of one of my favorite college professors at Harding, "What you win them with, you win them to."
It feels like we have turned Christianity more into staying out of hell than living for heaven. For many, the question seems to have become, ""What do I need to do to get to heaven?" instead of "What does it mean to follow Jesus?"
I feel like I am beginning to ramble. There is so much going on right now in my mind as I wrestle with the words I read. God, hear my cry. Give me discernment. Where is it that you are calling God's people today as we face an unknown future? How can we move from being admirers of Jesus to committing our lives to him as his followers?
shine!
Jason
Friday, March 27, 2009
Camp out
Last night I enjoyed another camp out with my son.
You might think I am crazy to have a camp out in March in Michigan, but it's not exactly what you think.
From time to time, we will pull the cushion off the futon in our guest room and put it out in front of the the fireplace in the living room. Then we turn on the fireplace, which serves as our "campfire." Matthew and I lay there and pray together, talk for a bit, and then drift off to dreamland.
These are some of the moments that I will cherish the most as my little boy grows up. There will come a day when this may not be so fun and cool. However, I am hoping that one day they will transform into camp outs where we can sit around a real campfire and talk about more profound aspects of life.
Every moment is precious and I know I don't always make enough time for my family. But I know that little things like these "camp outs" will be more important than any investment I can make in a retirement account.
If you have children, be sure to make time for moments like this. Unlike money in a bank account, they are investments that can never be taken away. They are the down payment on your future relationship with your children. Don't trade them in for the cheap substitutes of money, power, prestige, and possessions. Make time for the most important things and you will be richer than you could ever imagine.
shine!
Jason
You might think I am crazy to have a camp out in March in Michigan, but it's not exactly what you think.
From time to time, we will pull the cushion off the futon in our guest room and put it out in front of the the fireplace in the living room. Then we turn on the fireplace, which serves as our "campfire." Matthew and I lay there and pray together, talk for a bit, and then drift off to dreamland.
These are some of the moments that I will cherish the most as my little boy grows up. There will come a day when this may not be so fun and cool. However, I am hoping that one day they will transform into camp outs where we can sit around a real campfire and talk about more profound aspects of life.
Every moment is precious and I know I don't always make enough time for my family. But I know that little things like these "camp outs" will be more important than any investment I can make in a retirement account.
If you have children, be sure to make time for moments like this. Unlike money in a bank account, they are investments that can never be taken away. They are the down payment on your future relationship with your children. Don't trade them in for the cheap substitutes of money, power, prestige, and possessions. Make time for the most important things and you will be richer than you could ever imagine.
shine!
Jason
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Illuminate thank you's
Illuminate 2009 was a great weekend! We had over 250 students and adults registered for the event as well as a number of special guests who were a part of the weekend. Students from here at Rochester and around the region joined together for times of worship and teaching. In addition, there were several breakout sessions that included a variety of topics and learning styles. We had comedy and a very entertaining concert.
Don McLaughlin, from the North Atlanta Church of Christ, was our keynote speaker who brought the word of God to life in a powerful way. He also stayed and spoke on Sunday morning.
Sean Algaier, from the Jenks Church in Oklahoma, lead us in worship on Friday night and taught a parents/teens class on Sunday morning.
Our own Chris Lindsey led worship on Saturday as well as coordinating everything that happened during our worship times.
Ambassadors, from Ohio Valley University, provided dramas that enhanced the message of the weekend. They also led several breakout sessions.
Hoss Ridgeway provided a lot of laughs through his comedy and led two breakout sessions.
Pat Pugh, from Cincinnati Urban Ministry Outreach, led several breakout sessions.
Randy Hendrickson, from Parkersburg, West Virginia, shared his story in a breakout session.
John Reuben performed a great concert on Saturday night.
In addition to all of those guests, there was an army of people from here at the Rochester Church that made Illuminate happen. I want to thank each and every one of them for their time and energy to make this event possible. Without them, Illuminate would not have been possible:
KITCHEN
Scott Vasseur
Sue Vasseur
Gary Osborn
Dawn Osborn
Jim Lytle
Heidi Lytle
Paul Patrico
Michelle Patrico
Rick Hillman
Paul Shinsky
Barb Huey
Tracy DuBaere
Karen Demsich
Nora Muntz
Lisa Patrico
Jeanie King
Patti Jenema
Carolyn Palmer
Amber White
Dave Turner
SECURITY
Kerry DuBaere
Josh DuBaere
Jerry Ward
Reggie Hansen
Dave Palmer
Joey Kesler
Kevin Stewart
Duncan Mead
Gary Turner
Keith Huey
Bob Stewart
Allen Meinhard
Joe Demsich
Jim Lytle
Elijah Blake
Keith Huey
REGISTRATION & HOUSING
Laura Stewart
Barb Huey
Carolyn Palmer
Lisa Patrico
Heidi Lytle
Debi Gibbs
BREAK OUT SESSION REGISTRATION
Michelle Steckel
Betty Turner
Patti Jenema
GUEST HOSPITALITY
Katie Dear
Dana Spivy
Jenny Hoggatt
TECHNICAL SUPPORT
Gary Anspach
Jon Knutson
Dave Cassilly
Matt Brown
Woody Woodward
SET-UP/CLEAN-UP
Kevin O'Sullivan
Rick Hillman
Debi Gibbs
Joey Kesler
Trudy Kesler
SICK ROOM
Tammy Ward
VIDEOGRAPHY
Lee Higginbottom
PRAISE TEAM
Chris Lindsey
Vicki Lindsey
Jeremy King
Veronica King
John Knutson
Holly Knutson
Steve Corp
Brenden Davison
PRAISE TEAM BAND
Chris Lindsey
Sean Algaier
Andy Robinson
Neil Graney
Teresa Graney
Ben Ayers
Aaron Mize
BREAK-OUT SESSION TEACHERS
Patrick Mead
Brian Bowers
Robert Martin
Sara Barton
Scott Ockerman
Shaun Hover
Adam Hill
Adam Hacias
Katy Hacias
David Watts
David Rotberg
Krystal Rotberg
Ty Warczinsky
Brandi Warczinsky
Joe Howard
Chris Lindsey
SPONSORS
Rochester College
Ohio Valley University
York College
Harding University
Great Lakes Christian College
STAGE PREPARATION
Jodie Anspach
Vicki Lindsey
BABYSITTERS FOR VOLUNTEERS
Kerri O'Connor
Allyson Huey
Melody Hastings
Sarah Ageno
Meghan Palmer
PEOPLE WHO HOUSED (approx. 100) GUESTS
Russel & Karen Wilkinson
Bob & Sheila Sparks
Jerry & Tammy Ward
Bob & Laura Stewart
Gayle Flanigan
Duane and Pat Harrison
Bill & Paula Flowers
Todd & Patti Jenema
Mark & Linda Dear
Jeff & Mollie Debandt
Tom & Sara Hayman
Dave Cassilly
Jerry & Julie Parks
Scott & Renee Tekely
Dave & Karen Benedict
Gary & Dawn Osborn
Rick & Merry Hastings
Fred & Lisa Hartman
Keith & Barb Huey
EVERYWHERE
Trudy Kesler
Michelle Steckel
Jason Steckel
Once again, I want to thank everyone who was a part of the weekend. I hope I have not forgotten anyone’s name here, because I really appreciate all of you. Let me end this article with a comment from one of the youth ministers who was here for Illuminate:
“Illuminate was AMAZING! It is quickly becoming my favorite event of the year. Everyone involved did a great job. John Reuben was, as expected, excellent. Well, I am running out of synonyms for really good.”
shine!
Jason
Don McLaughlin, from the North Atlanta Church of Christ, was our keynote speaker who brought the word of God to life in a powerful way. He also stayed and spoke on Sunday morning.
Sean Algaier, from the Jenks Church in Oklahoma, lead us in worship on Friday night and taught a parents/teens class on Sunday morning.
Our own Chris Lindsey led worship on Saturday as well as coordinating everything that happened during our worship times.
Ambassadors, from Ohio Valley University, provided dramas that enhanced the message of the weekend. They also led several breakout sessions.
Hoss Ridgeway provided a lot of laughs through his comedy and led two breakout sessions.
Pat Pugh, from Cincinnati Urban Ministry Outreach, led several breakout sessions.
Randy Hendrickson, from Parkersburg, West Virginia, shared his story in a breakout session.
John Reuben performed a great concert on Saturday night.
In addition to all of those guests, there was an army of people from here at the Rochester Church that made Illuminate happen. I want to thank each and every one of them for their time and energy to make this event possible. Without them, Illuminate would not have been possible:
KITCHEN
Scott Vasseur
Sue Vasseur
Gary Osborn
Dawn Osborn
Jim Lytle
Heidi Lytle
Paul Patrico
Michelle Patrico
Rick Hillman
Paul Shinsky
Barb Huey
Tracy DuBaere
Karen Demsich
Nora Muntz
Lisa Patrico
Jeanie King
Patti Jenema
Carolyn Palmer
Amber White
Dave Turner
SECURITY
Kerry DuBaere
Josh DuBaere
Jerry Ward
Reggie Hansen
Dave Palmer
Joey Kesler
Kevin Stewart
Duncan Mead
Gary Turner
Keith Huey
Bob Stewart
Allen Meinhard
Joe Demsich
Jim Lytle
Elijah Blake
Keith Huey
REGISTRATION & HOUSING
Laura Stewart
Barb Huey
Carolyn Palmer
Lisa Patrico
Heidi Lytle
Debi Gibbs
BREAK OUT SESSION REGISTRATION
Michelle Steckel
Betty Turner
Patti Jenema
GUEST HOSPITALITY
Katie Dear
Dana Spivy
Jenny Hoggatt
TECHNICAL SUPPORT
Gary Anspach
Jon Knutson
Dave Cassilly
Matt Brown
Woody Woodward
SET-UP/CLEAN-UP
Kevin O'Sullivan
Rick Hillman
Debi Gibbs
Joey Kesler
Trudy Kesler
SICK ROOM
Tammy Ward
VIDEOGRAPHY
Lee Higginbottom
PRAISE TEAM
Chris Lindsey
Vicki Lindsey
Jeremy King
Veronica King
John Knutson
Holly Knutson
Steve Corp
Brenden Davison
PRAISE TEAM BAND
Chris Lindsey
Sean Algaier
Andy Robinson
Neil Graney
Teresa Graney
Ben Ayers
Aaron Mize
BREAK-OUT SESSION TEACHERS
Patrick Mead
Brian Bowers
Robert Martin
Sara Barton
Scott Ockerman
Shaun Hover
Adam Hill
Adam Hacias
Katy Hacias
David Watts
David Rotberg
Krystal Rotberg
Ty Warczinsky
Brandi Warczinsky
Joe Howard
Chris Lindsey
SPONSORS
Rochester College
Ohio Valley University
York College
Harding University
Great Lakes Christian College
STAGE PREPARATION
Jodie Anspach
Vicki Lindsey
BABYSITTERS FOR VOLUNTEERS
Kerri O'Connor
Allyson Huey
Melody Hastings
Sarah Ageno
Meghan Palmer
PEOPLE WHO HOUSED (approx. 100) GUESTS
Russel & Karen Wilkinson
Bob & Sheila Sparks
Jerry & Tammy Ward
Bob & Laura Stewart
Gayle Flanigan
Duane and Pat Harrison
Bill & Paula Flowers
Todd & Patti Jenema
Mark & Linda Dear
Jeff & Mollie Debandt
Tom & Sara Hayman
Dave Cassilly
Jerry & Julie Parks
Scott & Renee Tekely
Dave & Karen Benedict
Gary & Dawn Osborn
Rick & Merry Hastings
Fred & Lisa Hartman
Keith & Barb Huey
EVERYWHERE
Trudy Kesler
Michelle Steckel
Jason Steckel
Once again, I want to thank everyone who was a part of the weekend. I hope I have not forgotten anyone’s name here, because I really appreciate all of you. Let me end this article with a comment from one of the youth ministers who was here for Illuminate:
“Illuminate was AMAZING! It is quickly becoming my favorite event of the year. Everyone involved did a great job. John Reuben was, as expected, excellent. Well, I am running out of synonyms for really good.”
shine!
Jason
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Illuminate videos
Here are the Illuminate 2009 highlight video and Illuminate 2010 teaser video...
Illuminate 2009 Closing Highlights from Lee Higginbottom on Vimeo
Illuminate 2010 Promo - DRIVE from Lee Higginbottom on Vimeo
shine!
Jason
Illuminate 2009 Closing Highlights from Lee Higginbottom on Vimeo
Illuminate 2010 Promo - DRIVE from Lee Higginbottom on Vimeo
shine!
Jason
Monday, March 23, 2009
The day after
Well, it's the end of amazing weekend. I will have much more to say tomorrow, but I have to take a minute to thank the wonderful people of the Rochester Church. Over 100 people volunteered to make Illuminate happen. When I did the math, I estimated that over 1,500 hours of work went into making Illuminate a success. Wow!
Over the last several months, I have probably put about 75 hours of time into Illuminate 2009. People ask me how I made Illuminate happen. It wasn't me all that much. There were another 1,425 hours of time put in by an army of people. I only contributed 5% of the time put into this event. The other 95% came from others who brought a variety of talents and abilities to the table.
Most of all, I want to thank God for being present in an amazing way! I was reminded once again this weekend of the power of God and the value of community. The Holy Spirit moved powerfully this weekend through the hearts, minds, and bodies of scores of people at the Rochester Church. I am blessed to be part of such an incredible church family.
shine!
Jason
Over the last several months, I have probably put about 75 hours of time into Illuminate 2009. People ask me how I made Illuminate happen. It wasn't me all that much. There were another 1,425 hours of time put in by an army of people. I only contributed 5% of the time put into this event. The other 95% came from others who brought a variety of talents and abilities to the table.
Most of all, I want to thank God for being present in an amazing way! I was reminded once again this weekend of the power of God and the value of community. The Holy Spirit moved powerfully this weekend through the hearts, minds, and bodies of scores of people at the Rochester Church. I am blessed to be part of such an incredible church family.
shine!
Jason
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Two more days!
It's hard to believe that we are a little more than 48 hours from the kick-off of Illuminate 2009! The stage is being decorated, final plans are being made, and people are hard at work.
I am asking for everyone's prayers over the next couple of days. Pray specifically for the following people:
Thank you for praying!!! Pray that God moves in very powerful ways this weekend and that people are set free from the things that bind them.
shine!
Jason
I am asking for everyone's prayers over the next couple of days. Pray specifically for the following people:
Don McLaughlin, who will be our main speaker
Chris Lindsey and Sean Algaier, who will be leading us in worship
Ambassadors as they present messages through drama
Hoss Ridgeway as he makes us laugh through his comedy
Ignite session leaders, including: Patrick Mead, Pat Pugh, Shaun Hover, a mission team, Randy Hendrickson and Scott Ockerman, Sara Barton, Ambassadors, and Hoss
The dozens of volunteers who are giving up hundreds of hours this week (and some for the last several weeks)
The hundreds of students, parents, and youth workers who will be converging on Rochester Church this weekend
Thank you for praying!!! Pray that God moves in very powerful ways this weekend and that people are set free from the things that bind them.
shine!
Jason
Sunday, March 15, 2009
The Ides of March
Today is the Ides of March. This day is probably most famous as the day that the Roman Emperor, Julius Caesar, was assassinated.
On this day in 44 BC, the Roman Senate tricked Caesar and killed him. While there is some dispute among historians about Julius Caesar’s last words, many believe that his last words may have been, “Et tu, Brute?” This phrase means, “You too, Brutus?” or “Even you, Brutus?”
Marcus Junius Brutus was a Roman Senator who Caesar had brought into his inner circle of associates. However, he was convinced by other senators to join the assassination plot against Caesar and was there for the killing of the Roman leader.
It was less than a century later that another man was betrayed by someone in his inner circle. We know this man as Judas Iscariot.
Judas was one of Jesus’ twelve apostles. He was chosen by Jesus as a member of his inner circle, his closest associates. Judas was even made treasurer of the group.
In spite of his close relationship with Jesus and the rest of the Twelve, he chose to betray Jesus. Ironically, it was with a kiss that he completed the betrayal.
I wonder if Jesus knew what would happen a few laters when he spoke these words in the Sermon on the Mount…
“You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that.” (Matthew 5:43-47)
Regardless of whether or not he knew at the time he spoke these words, Jesus lived them. Even as he was hanging on the cross, Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:24)
Whether it was Jesus befriending Judas even as he prepared to betray him or his prayer for those who had crucified him, Jesus lived what he preached until he breathed his last death.
On the anniversary of the betrayal of an ancient emperor, let’s take a minute to reflect on Jesus’ words and actions. Imagine how different our world would be if we could live like that. How would things be different if we truly loved our enemies and prayed for those who persecute us? Maybe that’s the recipe for true peace.
shine!
Jason
On this day in 44 BC, the Roman Senate tricked Caesar and killed him. While there is some dispute among historians about Julius Caesar’s last words, many believe that his last words may have been, “Et tu, Brute?” This phrase means, “You too, Brutus?” or “Even you, Brutus?”
Marcus Junius Brutus was a Roman Senator who Caesar had brought into his inner circle of associates. However, he was convinced by other senators to join the assassination plot against Caesar and was there for the killing of the Roman leader.
It was less than a century later that another man was betrayed by someone in his inner circle. We know this man as Judas Iscariot.
Judas was one of Jesus’ twelve apostles. He was chosen by Jesus as a member of his inner circle, his closest associates. Judas was even made treasurer of the group.
In spite of his close relationship with Jesus and the rest of the Twelve, he chose to betray Jesus. Ironically, it was with a kiss that he completed the betrayal.
I wonder if Jesus knew what would happen a few laters when he spoke these words in the Sermon on the Mount…
“You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that.” (Matthew 5:43-47)
Regardless of whether or not he knew at the time he spoke these words, Jesus lived them. Even as he was hanging on the cross, Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:24)
Whether it was Jesus befriending Judas even as he prepared to betray him or his prayer for those who had crucified him, Jesus lived what he preached until he breathed his last death.
On the anniversary of the betrayal of an ancient emperor, let’s take a minute to reflect on Jesus’ words and actions. Imagine how different our world would be if we could live like that. How would things be different if we truly loved our enemies and prayed for those who persecute us? Maybe that’s the recipe for true peace.
shine!
Jason
Monday, March 09, 2009
Who do you want to be?
Who do you want to be?
Who do you want us to be?
These are the two questions I posed Wednesday night as we kicked off our small group time.
I am firmly convinced that how we answer these two questions will significantly impact where we go as individuals and a community.
Please slowly read and reflect on the Bible passages below…
But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you. (And remember that those who do not have the Spirit of Christ living in them do not belong to him at all.) And Christ lives within you, so even though your body will die because of sin, the Spirit gives you life because you have been made right with God. The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, he will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you….For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. (Romans 8:9-11,14)
Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? (1 Corinthians 6:15)
The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ…All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it.
(1 Corinthians 12:12,27)
And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful. (Colossians 3:15)
My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)
If we are truly Christ-followers, we must realize that the world does not revolve around us. Rather, we are called to be a part of a community, a body of believers. That requires us to consider others in all that we do. In addition, we must live a life that seeks to improve the health of the entire body.
For some of us, this means it’s time to stop “playing church.” In other words, church is not an activity in your planner or something you do when you feel like it. Church, the body, is who you are. It is your identity.
For others, it might mean it’s time to remove any spiritual cancer that is hurting you and maybe even those around you. Is there a habit or attitude you need to get rid of?
God has created us and called us to be part of a bigger plan. We are created in the image of God so that we can live out God’s dream in this world. That means we need to seriously consider the questions “who do you want to be?” and “who do you want us to be?” Those are the questions that should shape and direct every aspect of our lives.
shine!
Jason
Who do you want us to be?
These are the two questions I posed Wednesday night as we kicked off our small group time.
I am firmly convinced that how we answer these two questions will significantly impact where we go as individuals and a community.
Please slowly read and reflect on the Bible passages below…
But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you. (And remember that those who do not have the Spirit of Christ living in them do not belong to him at all.) And Christ lives within you, so even though your body will die because of sin, the Spirit gives you life because you have been made right with God. The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, he will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you….For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. (Romans 8:9-11,14)
Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? (1 Corinthians 6:15)
The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ…All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it.
(1 Corinthians 12:12,27)
And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful. (Colossians 3:15)
My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)
If we are truly Christ-followers, we must realize that the world does not revolve around us. Rather, we are called to be a part of a community, a body of believers. That requires us to consider others in all that we do. In addition, we must live a life that seeks to improve the health of the entire body.
For some of us, this means it’s time to stop “playing church.” In other words, church is not an activity in your planner or something you do when you feel like it. Church, the body, is who you are. It is your identity.
For others, it might mean it’s time to remove any spiritual cancer that is hurting you and maybe even those around you. Is there a habit or attitude you need to get rid of?
God has created us and called us to be part of a bigger plan. We are created in the image of God so that we can live out God’s dream in this world. That means we need to seriously consider the questions “who do you want to be?” and “who do you want us to be?” Those are the questions that should shape and direct every aspect of our lives.
shine!
Jason
Monday, March 02, 2009
Youth Dialogue Day - Middle School Edition
Today I was able to make some really cool new friends. I was invited to be a part of a Youth Dialogue Day. Basically, it's a day where students gather to share their opinions and ideas surrounding certain issues today's students face.
I was really impressed by many of the insights students shared. While middle school students have not changed much since I was there 25 years ago (wow, I feel old all of a sudden), some of the issues they are faced with have changed significantly.
There are pressures and choices that very few of my peers had to deal with. The conditions and culture have become more hectic than ever. The stress and anxiety are at levels I can't imagine. But in the midst of all of that, I met some students today who had some great thoughts about what they deal with on a daily basis.
One of the things that I heard a number of students share is that they wish their parents were more involved in their lives. I don't think that necessarily means they want parents who don't give them space and tend to stick their noses in everything. But there definitely seems to be a desire for parents to be more engaged.
Today we live in a culture where times have changed. It seems as though there are more two-income households than ever. I realize that some families need two incomes, but in other families it is more desire than need. A second income to live in a bigger house and drive nicer cars is not a need.
Every family is different and every situation is unique. However, I believe our society has often gotten our priorities out of order and missed the bigger picture. If you could get students to be honest, I believe that many of them would give up some material possessions in order to have parents who had time to listen to them.
One of the things I have become more and more aware of is the feeling of desertion and loneliness that many teenagers feel today. For many of these students that starts at home. They may come home to an empty house where there isn't a adult there until later in the evening. For others, it might result from being at school until five or six in the evening, running to another event, and getting home just in time for homework and bed. For others it might come from everyone in the family having a television in their room, so everyone can watch what they want in solitude. We have allowed our culture and our entertainment-focused society to drive wedges in the middle of our most crucial relationships.
While teenagers want their freedom and want to discover who they are, I am convinced that they will actually feel more free to explore the question of who they are when they know home is a place of safety and community. When they know their parents will actually take time to listen - not just instruct and give orders - teenagers will be more willing to ask questions and share their struggles.
Don't expect teenagers to tell you everything. They are seeking their own life and their own identity. But when we provide an environment where they know we are there, willing to listen and willing to make time for them, the results can be priceless. That's the kind of investment that lasts long after the things we thought were so important are in a landfill or in the rearview mirror of life
shine!
Jason
I was really impressed by many of the insights students shared. While middle school students have not changed much since I was there 25 years ago (wow, I feel old all of a sudden), some of the issues they are faced with have changed significantly.
There are pressures and choices that very few of my peers had to deal with. The conditions and culture have become more hectic than ever. The stress and anxiety are at levels I can't imagine. But in the midst of all of that, I met some students today who had some great thoughts about what they deal with on a daily basis.
One of the things that I heard a number of students share is that they wish their parents were more involved in their lives. I don't think that necessarily means they want parents who don't give them space and tend to stick their noses in everything. But there definitely seems to be a desire for parents to be more engaged.
Today we live in a culture where times have changed. It seems as though there are more two-income households than ever. I realize that some families need two incomes, but in other families it is more desire than need. A second income to live in a bigger house and drive nicer cars is not a need.
Every family is different and every situation is unique. However, I believe our society has often gotten our priorities out of order and missed the bigger picture. If you could get students to be honest, I believe that many of them would give up some material possessions in order to have parents who had time to listen to them.
One of the things I have become more and more aware of is the feeling of desertion and loneliness that many teenagers feel today. For many of these students that starts at home. They may come home to an empty house where there isn't a adult there until later in the evening. For others, it might result from being at school until five or six in the evening, running to another event, and getting home just in time for homework and bed. For others it might come from everyone in the family having a television in their room, so everyone can watch what they want in solitude. We have allowed our culture and our entertainment-focused society to drive wedges in the middle of our most crucial relationships.
While teenagers want their freedom and want to discover who they are, I am convinced that they will actually feel more free to explore the question of who they are when they know home is a place of safety and community. When they know their parents will actually take time to listen - not just instruct and give orders - teenagers will be more willing to ask questions and share their struggles.
Don't expect teenagers to tell you everything. They are seeking their own life and their own identity. But when we provide an environment where they know we are there, willing to listen and willing to make time for them, the results can be priceless. That's the kind of investment that lasts long after the things we thought were so important are in a landfill or in the rearview mirror of life
shine!
Jason
Sunday, March 01, 2009
Role Models
Click on this link to read a great article about athletes and role models. This really touched me, so I wanted to share it with others.
shine!
Jason
shine!
Jason
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