An alternative community

I am wrestling with something I read last night. For my grad class, I am currently reading The Missional Leader by Roxburgh and Romanuk. I came across some words that have challenged me. Maybe challenge isn't even the right word. What I read connected with my heart and mind. It touched on something I have been bothered by. It resonated with a passion that has been burning inside me for some time. It gave words to the feeling I have had for some time. Here is what they wrote:

Today, in discussion about the nature of church leadership, there is little theological wrestling with the questions of how to form or socialize a people into an alternative community. On the contrary, there is a growing emphasis on how to help seekers feel they belong in a congregation without any expectations or demands on their lives.
It is a strange twist of thinking to watch this kind of conversation. In the time of Tertullianm someone wanting to belong to the church had to go through a rigorous period of training focused on behavior (how daily life was actually lived). In other words, to belong to the new community of Jesus, a person was mentored in practicing change in habits. Today leaders talk about the need to create a safe, non-threatening, low threshold of belonging in order to draw people into the church. Note the two radically different ways in which the same language is being used. These approaches suggest contrasting sources of understanding. In the latter case and in our contemporary context, the source of this thinking in not a theologically, biblically formed imagination but the latest marking strategies that come from polls and studies about what people are looking for when they want to join a group. This is not to suggest that we not seek to welcome people into our churches. It is to point out the distinct sources of our leadership imagination today.

A little later, they wrote:

The Church entered the long period of Christendom and the focus of leadership shifted from formation of a people as a alternative society of God's future to oversight of orthodoxy, proper administration of the sacraments, and regulation of spiritualized and privatized ethical practices increasingly disconnected from any biblical or theological understanding of the ecclesia as the people of God.

I feel that in our efforts to spread the Kingdom we have lost some of the uniqueness of the Kingdom. We are called to be separate from the world. This doesn't mean we hide out and disengage from the world. Rather, it means we engage the world from a different perspective. But it seems that we have focused more on looking like the world and engaging the world on their terms instead.
Just last night I was talking with a teenager about the struggles of being a Christian teen. As I think about our conversation in the context of what I read last night, sometimes I feel like we have missed it. Instead of equipping students (and, just as importantly) their parents to develop spiritual habits and disciplines, we have focused on creating events and ministries that will appeal to today's teenagers.
Don't get me wrong. I love teenagers and spend most everyday thinking about how to reach them with the love of Jesus. But, in the words of one of my favorite college professors at Harding, "What you win them with, you win them to."
It feels like we have turned Christianity more into staying out of hell than living for heaven. For many, the question seems to have become, ""What do I need to do to get to heaven?" instead of "What does it mean to follow Jesus?"
I feel like I am beginning to ramble. There is so much going on right now in my mind as I wrestle with the words I read. God, hear my cry. Give me discernment. Where is it that you are calling God's people today as we face an unknown future? How can we move from being admirers of Jesus to committing our lives to him as his followers?

shine!
Jason