What did you get on the test?
How much do you get paid?
How did your child do in the sporting event?
How much of our energy do we spend on trying to look better than someone else?
We live in a culture that says...
Do you drive this car? It means you're successful.
Do you wear this label? It mean's you're stylish.
Do you drink this beverage? It means you're sexy.
But the way of the Kingdom offers a different approach to how we look at others...and ourselves.
Don't compare. We shouldn't look to others to determine our worth. In a world that tells us to measure our value by how much better or worse we are than someone else, God tells us that our value is found in the love He has for us.
Don't compete. This doesn't mean we can't play a game and try to win. However, when it comes to "real life," we should not use the performance of others as a benchmark. Instead, strive to do our best based on the talents and abilities God has blessed us with.
Don't condemn. So often we think we are "good" because we do something better than someone else. I'm not so bad because I don't do that sin.
At the end of the day, we need to look at ourself in the mirror instead of looking at someone else. The apostle James says it like this...
Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. (James 1:22-25 NIV)
If we do that and realize how imperfect we are, we might feel even worse. By comparing ourselves with God's word and competing with God's standards, we could find ourselves feeling condemned. But that is where God's grace comes into play. God's grace allows us not to be judged by our sins, but affords us the freedom to face our sins and make the changes needed in our lives.
And, just as importantly, we need to extend the same grace to others that God has given to us. The apostle Paul addresses this issue while writing to a church struggling with legalism and pens these words...
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. (Galatians 6:1-5 NIV)
Grace is not only something we receive; it's something we must share as well. But it will be challenging to do that as long as we depend on comparison to others for our value. Rather, look into the mirror of God's word, strive to make the right changes to become more like Jesus, and encourage others to do the same.
shine!
Jason